Looking everywhere but the camera 


This is the same dress as in the last post. It seems that I’m going to get a lot of mileage out of this one. This is the way things should be. Asé.

The weather in Portland is bordering on disrespectfully hot right. Not to worry, it’ll be back to rain in a few days; equally disrespectful. Not one to waste a cloudless sky in the PNW, I wore my favorite shoes that give me blisters but I still insist on making work. They make everything look better.

And isn’t that what life is all about? Trade-offs, right? There are going to be things you have to endure because other things (often in direct conflict or opposition to what you want or is most comfortable) are more important. You can’t really have it all – it’s usually one thing or the other. It’s taken me a long time to learn this. I’m still learning it.

Clothes make for a great starting point to existential and philosophical musings.





Knowing the path vs. walking the path has been difficult for me. I realize now that this is because I’m not very good at being decisive. I read an interesting article on the importance of acknowledging trade-offs (trades-off?) in life and how that can force you into making actual decisions and maybe into some peace of mind. This dovetailed nicely with another video I watched earlier about budgeting and how deciding what you want really guides your focus and steps toward goal accomplishment (this is what I do with my free time, yes).




“Jesus be a closet full of grails and good foundations”

I was talking with D this week about the progress we’ve made (and haven’t made) in curbing our enthusiasm for buying clothes. Lately, it seems we aren’t binge shopping (as was the style between 2009 and 2011) and instead are thoughtfully considering what to add before adding anything.

At first I was excited that we’d finally reached a higher plane of understanding and fiscal responsibility, but then quickly realized it’s because we’ve managed to find and buy most of the things we’ve been pining for for years. And I guess that’s what should happen after searching and failing and searching and buying sub-par versions of things and selling them and finally (FINALLY) finding what you’ve been looking for on eBay one night after crying about your latest bad date or horrible workday and you’ve had just enough wine so you think maybe your eyes are deceiving you, but no, they aren’t and that really IS that pair of Rick Owens thigh high boots/THEE Céline Bam-Bams/that Helmut Lang blazer/insert whatever it is you’ve been looking for since it showed up on (your former fave’s) blog back in 2010…

I mean, yes, once you’ve managed to do that for all your grails, what’s left is to make sure the rest of your stuff is nice and fits well and works with your grails; and that’s how it should be. This is how you know you’ve arrived at closet nirvana and can now move on to dealing with the real issues in your life that you’ve been avoiding by shopping. YAY!

…but that doesn’t actually happen because then you realize that the bath and beauty product world is also a THING and you have a whole new world to explore. In case you were curious, Glossier, Belle Butters and BeeLux reign supreme in my bathroom.  The Lip Bar also makes really nice lipsticks.