Sunday Self-Care

This weekend, the more *irrational* side of my brain is trying to get the best of me. Knowing how a downward spiral can affect my life for days at a time, I’m doing my best to offset it today. Following are some things that have helped:

  • sleeping in
  • two Milano cookies
  • a homemade matcha latte, sipped slowly as I stared out of my window, letting my mind wander
  • finally mending a pair of jeans that had been sitting in the corner for nearly two months
  • fertilizing and rearranging my plants
  • dusting the windowsills
  • mounting nails to hang my necklaces instead of having them strewn about
  • this incense (I recommend using the top of an egg carton to contain the ashes)
  • FaceTime with my mom and sister
  • avoiding everyone else
  • a face mask

Self-care should not be expensive. It also shouldn’t be dictated by some random list on the internet. You know what you need when you need it.


Face Mask

This is my go-to mask when I’m feeling out of sorts or when my skin is acting up. I use more white clay than bentonite clay because my skin is sensitive; feel free to adjust your mixture accordingly. Honey is good for hydration and turmeric is great for combating inflammation/acne and for evening skin tone. Cinnamon also helps with acne control.

1 tablespoon of bentonite clay
2 tablespoons of kaolin (also known as China or white) clay
1 teaspoon of honey
1/2 teaspoon of turmeric
1/2 teaspoon of cinnamon
enough water or ACV or aloe vera juice to make the mask consistency you like

Mix everything up in a jar you can keep in the fridge. If you apply this with a foundation brush (and you should!), you’ll have enough for two or three masks. Leave it on between 10 and 20 minutes and rinse off with warm water. Steaming with a face flannel first helps.

 

Notes on a Post-It: 005

I missed doing these.

Made it to day 70 and crumbled under the pressure of a sale. WELP. I’m pretty sure we all knew it would end this way because it always ends this way. I could keep going, but I don’t really see why I should. Oh well – onward and upward. I decided my only real goal is to be better than I was yesterday.

It isn’t enough to ban one sort of thing because I will always find a new thing to replace it; clothes with plants, plants with skin care, skin care with makeup. All of it leads to the same thing…me not being the greatest steward over my coin. I justify this to myself saying it’s fine because I don’t have any credit card debt and, in my pre-“Starships” Nicki Minaj voice “I pay da bills on TIME,” but that was never the point.

Me in the Splendid fitting room in The Slip Dress. Everything is 30% off until the 11th.

What I’ve relearned (again), is that I like things and buying things and that it’s better to plan for moments where lots of things I like are available and heavily discounted.  Or preparing for when the seasons change since that’s when sales are plentiful and I’m most likely to be on the lookout for something to supplement my current fill-in-the-blank. Or I need to come up with a better strategy all around. Mandatory waiting periods seem to be the most likely and effective.

Right now, I’m reading The Tao of Bruce Lee. The book isn’t what I thought it would be, but it’s great nonetheless.

Since my last post on plants, I got a little pilea peperomioides from Pistils Nursery and a bird of paradise from Portland Nursery. I think I’ve hit the point where I need to stop buying plants solely because the law of diminishing returns will soon take effect, but maybe I haven’t. They make me happy and are cheaper than therapy.

My desk babies

Kelela’s latest album is a beautiful piece of work. I’m so excited to see her when she comes to PDX, especially after reading her interview in The Fader. The pictures that accompany it are stunning.

Baby alpaca is my new favorite knitwear material. This scarf by Nau (which is pretty well priced given the material, size, and quality) is going to see a lot of action over the next few months.

My phone screen has been shattered for several months. The Apple store is walking distance from where I spend 90% of my time. Priorities.

New skin care routine alert!  Post forthcoming after I test a couple of new things I added into the mix. Exciiiiiiiiting.

 

 

Sweater SZN

ALC sweater / CITIZENS OF HUMANITY jeans

Bathroom selfies – a hallmark of sophistication.

It’s been two months and I’ve managed to keep to my challenge, albeit skirting the *rules* that I came up with a bit. Case in point, the above sweater was the result of a successful selling trip to Crossroads. No money was exchanged for said sweater, so I didn’t technically buy it. Thus my quest to have a bougie closet on the most shoestring of budgets continues.

I love these little games I play with myself.

Or I’m just playing myself since the original goal was to “calibrate my priorities,” “stop chasing the new,” and “enjoying what I already have.”

*insert appropriate DJ Khaled .gif here*

 

Triggered

MADEWELL duffle bag / CITIZENS of HUMANITY jeans / GUCCI loafers

 

Captain’s log:

Day 43 of the clothes shopping ban is over. I hesitate to feel like I’ve accomplished anything because I haven’t wanted to buy clothing. Shocking until I realize that I’ve merely supplanted clothing as the collective object of my desire with a weekender duffle bag, Fenty Beauty products, and…plants. Trying to keep this all in check is difficult; not impossible, but difficult. Difficult only because I’m having to reacquaint myself with my triggers. A partial list, in no specific order:

  • things on sale
  • things for which I have some sort of discount
  • things I’ve found below retail
  • shopping with friends
  • plants
  • shiny objects
  • boredom
  • stress
  • irritation
  • any emotion that isn’t generally positive

What’s helping me keep things in *check* is making an effort to budget for these new targets. Saving a little here and there before something captures my attention is keeping me on the mostly straight and sometimes narrow. One can only hope my impulse control strengthens over time.

I am due to go back to Sephora tomorrow to accompany another friend to check out the gifts that Rihanna has bestowed upon us. I live in hope that I will not leave with things I do not need.

Until next time,

I remain.