This Feels Correct

EMERSON FRY coat / EVERLANE sweater / RAG & BONE jeans / TABITHA SIMMONS boots

Now that the temperatures are teetering between actually freezing and fricking cold, I’m happy to have this coat. I bought it at the beginning of this year during one of Emerson Fry’s rolling outlet sample sales. It’s hefty and fully lined, keeps me warm and dry, and when I toss it on, it looks like I really tried. Hooray for foresight and quality clothing.

I talk a lot about the virtues of Emerson Fry. If your climate necessitates a nice coat for winter, I highly recommend hers. They’re beautifully made, decently priced (at retail and definitely when on sale!) and made in the USA. I’ve got eyes on the camel colored tailored coat if I ever get the itch for a new one.

In non-coat news, these boots make me insanely happy and I can’t stop looking at them.

Holiday Party Lewks

AMERICAN APPAREL bodysuit and skirt / MODE COLLECTIVE shoes

It me, out past midnight, sober, and with a half dead left foot. The holiday party was last Tuesday and I still don’t have full feeling in the middle three toes (not sure if I need to see a doctor about this). I had a different outfit planned, but, being the sometimes reactionary person that I am, after a friend commented that I dress like a man, I bought a new outfit that landed somewhere between feminine and thotty.  I figured I could leave my comfort zone for one night.


These are a few of my favorite things



HELMUT LANG blazer / BLACK CRANE dress / EARNEST SEWN jeans / CÉLINE shoes

Overdoing it last Friday because the weather is still semi-cooperating. Nothing new to see here clothing-wise, but I don’t think you come here for the latest and greatest and newness in the fashion. Bless you all, because I just can’t do it.

Unrelated, this is a great article on race and otherness: “It’s Not About Race” by John Metta.



How to get expensive clothes for cheap: an autobiography


Considering my list of unresolved post ideas, the one that most resonates with me is having “champagne taste and a beer budget,” or rather, a mutual want for both nice clothes and a well-padded bank account. I like to think I’ve cultivated decent taste in clothing (read: a certain degree of label-whoredom) over the years. I’ve definitely cultivated an aversion to credit card debt that may be even stronger. In the land of blogs – and I mean those that aren’t routinely traded clothing by brands for publicity – these two often represent opposite ends of the spectrum. For me? Myself? Personally? It’s a challenge to find pieces that I like without paying retail price for them.

Here’s the part where I’m supposed to say “AND YOU CAN TOO! Keep scrolling to learn how!”

THE ROW sunglasses

I know we all love “listicles” and quick “how-to’s” (don’t worry, it’s coming), so I want to state up-front that all of this depends on a combination of luck, actively hunting, and good timing. Also, as anyone who has read this blog for any period of time knows, you may (read: will probably) have to wait a good long while for what you want to appear. As long as your expectations are kept in check, you too can indulge your perceived need for the finer things and actively fund a savings account. Keep scrolling to learn how!

1 // Make peace with the fact that your personal style will not always reflect what’s trendy.

This is the first and most important thing. Why? Because if you don’t have a clearly defined sense of how you like to look, you will be throwing away money. Additionally, if you are one who likes to try all of the new things every season because you don’t have a clearly defined sense of how you like to look, you will be throwing away money. DON’T THROW AWAY MONEY. A better use of your time is to go through some exercises at Into Mind and figure out your look.

Mine? I like to call it “tomboy that finally grew up and likes good shoes.”

 If you feel you just HAVE to spend money on figuring this all out, I suggest buying the Stylebook app. It’s great for helping to spot trends and patterns in what you wear and forces you to come to terms with everything you own. It’s my third most used app after Pokemon Go and Snapchat.

2 // Embrace secondhand garments

Although the stigma around this seems to have lessened in the last few years, if you’re trying to buy designer clothes on the cheap, you’ll have to eliminate if from your mind completely. In my experience, most people sell things they barely have worn (if they’ve worn them at all) trying to recoup money to assuage their buyer’s remorse. Your mission is to help them with that process. See? You’re not taking advantage of someone so much as helping to heal them. And that’s a beautiful thing.

Seriously though, if it’s in good condition and you have access to a washing machine, who cares if you aren’t the first owner? Certainly not you. And unless you go telling the world that you’re wearing a whole lot of used goods, no one is going to care or judge you for it. And if they do? Tell them to worry about their eyebrows before worrying about you. Works like a charm.

HELMUT LANG blazer / 3.1 PHILLIP LIM tank / DIESEL shorts / WOMAN by COMMON PROJECTS sandals

3 // Get familiar with the non-eBay shop options

It’s probably the largest and most popular option (consider that 3 of the 5 things I’m wearing came from there), but it isn’t the only one. Others I’ve had luck on are the apps Depop (where I got the shoes) and Poshmark (where I got the sunglasses. If you sign up with code HVSQU we both get $5). There’s also Vestitaire Collective and The Real Real. If you’re more of an “I have to try this on first” kind of person, find your local resale shop (Buffalo Exchange, Crossroads, Wasteland, random consignment store) and make friends with the workers there. Then, of course, there is the trusty ol’ Goodwill or Salvation Army. Much rarer to find things in these places, but it does happen! I found a Chanel blouse in a St. Vincent de Paul for $5 once. I promptly sold it on eBay because WTF am I going to do with a blouse?

If you can’t get past the pre-owned thing, there’s always The Outnet, Barney’s Warehouse, Off Fifth, Nordstrom Rack, 6pm, and Yoox.  But get past it.

4 // Learn some basic sewing skills

This is another important one. If you have some working knowledge of how garments are constructed and how to fix them, you’ll be able to better suss out when something is salvageable (and when you can haggle a price further down with someone who probably doesn’t). Case in point, I recently bought a pair of Helmut Lang leather leggings (similar to these) from a girl at a yard sale. They were in great condition, but she’d marked them down to $25 because there was a hole in the leg. If you heard “hole” and “leather” and automatically thought “I’ll pass,” I don’t blame you. However, that hole happened to be a break in the stitching on an inner seam. I repaired them in under five minutes. Soooooooo, yeah. Get to youtube, check out a library book or visit the Colette blog. A little know-how will pay off tremendously.

5 // Budget

It’s old advice. It’s tired advice. But it’s sound advice that will keep you out of debt if you stick to it. Set aside some money every paycheck for clothes if you like to buy clothes. It’s simple and you can buy things nearly guilt-free once you properly acknowledge that buying things is important for you. And yes, you can do that. Really. It’s fine. We all have things on which we like to spend money, so we should well prepare ourselves to do so without having to rely on available credit to do it.

So that’s my take. I’m sure none of it was new or revolutionary, but I liked writing it and here we are.

Oh!  And if you’re like me and curious about how much this particular outfit cost since I’m yelling “DESIGNER FOR CHEAP,” I saved about $1,553 overall based on what I remember of the original retail prices (approximately $1,930 sans tax). All these individual pieces were bought over the course of a couple years.

Thank you for reading.

The Method

sweater from a thrift shop / RAG & BONE jeans / MODE COLLECTIVE shoes

Something old, something new, something “thrifted,” and… selfie because I can’t be bothered with proper outfit documentation. Love me anyway? What I lack in photography I make up with meaningless banter about clothes!

For instance, all three of the above “somethings” could apply to these shoes. Patience, usually the most effective weapon against complete irresponsibility, paid off once again when I found these lovely triple strap stunners for $40 – down from their original retail at $250 some seasons ago.

*insert squee*

Now, the story here usually goes that I was looking for a particular thing for forever, stalking it for months/years and then I finally find it. Not so this time. I learned of these perusing the blog Harper & Harley a few weeks ago and they stuck in my craw; beautiful lines, nice heel, probably really painful to actually wear. I was intrigued. As always, intrigue soon led to fixation, so I poked around the internet until I found them on eBay (there are a few more still listed if anyone else is interested). Since I’m trying to make better decisions and not let impulsiveness rule me, I let them sit for a couple of weeks while debating the merits of ownership. Below, a sampling of my inner monologue:

“Ooh, made in Spain by artisans! That sounds much better than a sweatshop.”

“Yeah, but they’re going to hurt.”

“These are going to look amazing with jeans. And a big sweater on top? Or a t-shirt? Those faux Jesse Kamm sailor pants I made from those pants from Buffalo Exchange? ALL OF THE THINGS.”

“You see how thin those straps are? BRUH. SAUSAGE. TOES.”

“Her feet don’t look that pained.”

“She’s sitting in nearly all the photos where she has on these shoes.”



“They’re $40.”

“I mean….you could just get them and if they hurt, resell them.”

“Yes. Yes I could.”

“And you have been wearing the same pair of “event shoes” since like…2012.”


“F- it. Just buy the shoes.”

I mean, it isn’t so much a conversation as a string of thoughts that consider separate arguments, but never mind all that.

The point is I copped them and they don’t hurt as much as anticipated. And they do look amazing with jeans and a big sweater. And it’s always worth waiting a few weeks, months, or years to buy something because you’ll usually be able to find it at a reasonable price and you’ll be able to better gauge whether or not something is an impulse buy or something you truly want to have. A little distance can do wonders for your wallet and general clutter levels.

Ok that was three points, but you get what I mean.