These are a few of my favorite things



HELMUT LANG blazer / BLACK CRANE dress / EARNEST SEWN jeans / CÉLINE shoes

Overdoing it last Friday because the weather is still semi-cooperating. Nothing new to see here clothing-wise, but I don’t think you come here for the latest and greatest and newness in the fashion. Bless you all, because I just can’t do it.

Unrelated, this is a great article on race and otherness: “It’s Not About Race” by John Metta.



The New Rules

photo of Jayne by Nabile Quenum

Since my spurrit is leading me to focus more on financial matters, I’m sharing my new guidelines for buying clothes:

  1. Buy only what you absolutely love
  2. Buy only what you are willing to take proper care of (hand washing, mending, maintenance, repair, etc)
  3. Buy only what you know you will wear at least 30 times
  4. Buy only with your own money (not Visa’s, not Master Card’s, not AmEx’s…)
  5. Ask yourself “what could I do with the money if I didn’t spend it?”

Why new guidelines? Because saving money has become more important than buying clothes. They’re fun to look at, try on, and play with, but ultimately, they aren’t improving my life in any tangible way.

I’m starting to wonder why I thought they ever would.

After reading this article and starting the book The More of Less, I’m curious as to why having all these clothes became so important in the first place. When did it become worth all of the pollution, destruction, exploitation, and death to look good for people that I don’t know?

It seems like the trend is to consider the question of worth in regard to makeup, but I feel like it should be extended to fashion, tech gadgets that need to be upgraded every year, and every other consumer good we’ve been made to feel we need to buy in order to be…what exactly? A modern person? Up on the latest? Living our best lives?

Are we really?

I’m convinced that we aren’t. I’m not sure we know what we actually want out of our lives and how all of this stuff fits in. I know I don’t. What’s certain is that we are making a few people incredibly rich and those incredibly rich few people aren’t doing a whole lot with that wealth to better the lives of the people on the lowest rungs of the supply chain. Meanwhile, we all continue to work jobs to pay bills that ensure this stuff is housed and cared for or paid for (with interest!) after we’ve already gotten bored with it.

What could that money be doing instead of sitting unused in the closet, boxed up for Goodwill, paying back creditors, or at the bottom of some junk drawer? I wonder.

Executive Suite

Oliver Peoples x The Row

Oliver Peoples x The Row ‘Executive Suite’ frames

I got wind of these over at 12:04 and I think I want them on my face (hopefully with fewer “Uncle Terry” vibes to them).

Assorted Life Things


Hoggie turned five and is starting kindergarten this week. It wasn’t really sinking in so I thought if I wrote it on the internet, it would become more real. And it did. I feel like I should be more freaked out than I am and I haven’t decided whether or not I’m going to cry on his first day of school. Currently, I’m leaning toward not. If I do end up crying, it’ll be the day I take him to his first soccer practice because that is the day I turn a corner toward “suburban” and that is a descriptive that I just cannot tolerate at this phase in my life.

I’ve been playing softball with my coworkers and it’s awesome. I got hit in the face with the ball last week and, while that wasn’t very awesome, it made me realize something about frustration and its impact on performance.

After doing battle with hyperpigmentaton for the majority of my life (twenty years worth…UGH), my skin is clearing up noticeably. I’m crediting a combination of time, consistency, black soap, Chaotic scrub from Bee Lux (which isn’t on the site anymore, but you could mix some brown sugar, turmeric, lemon essential oil and honey to the same effect), and Belle Butters mango moisture butter for face. Also, this stuff is the best acne/blemish treatment I’ve tried.

It’s getting cold and that means fall is coming and that means I’m going to mourn the loss of daily heat and sunshine but that also means I get to pull out warm clothes and feel like I have a whole new wardrobe. Hopefully this keeps me from shopping. Hopefully. Hope for me? Post forthcoming.

Sooooooooooo, how are you? What’s new?