Unless a Frenchwoman is actually holding a child, it’s usually very hard to tell if she’s a mother. There’s no telltale look or type of pants. They don’t sex it up to overcompensate (there’s no French equivalent of MILF, because in France there’s no reason why a mom wouldn’t be sexy). But they don’t walk around wearing sweatpants and scrunchies either. Instead, they seek an elegant middle ground. Frenchwomen don’t feel selfish for caring about their appearance…Looking good improves morale and makes you feel more balanced. It just does.
- from Bébé Day by Day: 100 Keys to French Parenting by Pamela Druckerman
I feel this on a cellular level.
I’m not a fan of parenting philosophies (or over-extolling the supremacy of French culture), but Druckerman’s books were both fun reads and make a lot of sense to me. They also validate my existing child-rearing behaviors. Confirmation bias for the win.
The above is from the distilled version of her first book Bringing up Bébé. Both are worth a read if you have kids or will have them in the near future.