Well…yesterday was interesting.
If any of you follow Ev’Yan’s blog, you know what I’m talking about. If not, go here and prepare to be overrun with a bevy of comments that start off innocently enough and denigrate into personal attacks and condescension under the cloak of “I study the facts” and “I’m an academic.” I would say I was left speechless, but that happens VERY rarely.
What actually happened is that I went the fuck off.
I threatened to go on a long, on-camera tirade about how some people are quick to judge folks they don’t know anything about, or how certain people label themselves as academics in an effort to disguise deeply held prejudices that they purport to rally against, or about how people simply don’t read what the hell is in front of them before forming an opinion about it, but that is what Twitter is for. Besides, Birdie did one HELL of a job of that on her own blog (the title of this blog is dedicated to that piece of beauty, you should really REALLY read it).
*hand clap for Birdie!!!*
I will add a bit, though. To everyone out there that reads this blog, or any blog for that matter, please know that the bloggers behind them are real people with real lives and real emotions. Some of us are more passive than others, and some of us are quick to cuss a bitch out dole out a tongue lashing when someone steps out of pocket. I could fall on either side of that coin depending on the circumstance, but TRUST if I see some bullshit (especially when it is maligned and attacking someone’s character), I WILL say something about it. To think your experience plus the three books you read in sociology class outweighs someone else’s personal experience, is bullshit. To call someone naive and ignorant because you don’t like what he/she has to say about what is working in his/her OWN DAMN LIFE, is bullshit. And to label yourself a progressive when you only serve the purpose to widen the divide while knocking other people for living their lives outside the color box is also some bullshit. WHO THE FUCK MADE YOU AN AUTHORITY ON WHAT I THINK AND HOW I LIVE?
Oh, you did? Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight…
Umm, yeah. That’s bullshit and I’m going to say something about it.
Side note: I will always go in for my people…ALWAYS…just in case any of you were out there wondering.
Addendum:
Not that I named names or anything, but thank you to Jasmine for giving me a third leg to stand on.
I bet you thought this post was about you… meh; if it applies, remain offended.
Methinks the lady doth protest too much…and forgets that apostrophes are parts of contracted words…and that I could give three fucks about what she thinks of my blog ESPECIALLY after I invited her not to come back to it…yesterday…
THANKS, JASMINE!!! Please refer to the picture below if you wish to make any further comments/ provide opportunities to show just how glowingly intelligent you are to the rest of the class.
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Now that we know each other a bit better, let’s get to today’s outfit!
(My segues are awesome. Don’t lie. You know they are. LOL )
(forgot the label maxi dress, Kill City draped leather jacket, Gap vest, Acne wedges)
For some strange reason, I got the relentless urge to purchase a denim vest. My thrifty-sense was activated near my local Hoodwill and I wasn’t disappointed. I found this gem in the perfect color, perfectly worn, and in the perfect size for all of $3.50. SWEET.
The maxi dress I got from Ross ages ago, and the jacket and wedges you’ve seen several times before. I told myself I was going to wear the hell out of both of these and am well pleased that I’ve stuck to that.
I’m digging this denim over leather look. Reminds me of some collection Alexander Wang did that I probably didn’t like because it looked like something I could do with my existing wardrobe plus a thrifted object…full circle, man. Full circle.
(no shade to Alexander Wang. I loved the pre-Fall 2010 stuff. Trufax.)
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Addendum: to my readers out there, know that I appreciate each and every one of you. Srsly. That you spend 30 seconds or more to look at what I post on these pages means a lot. THANK YOU.
28 Responses to “PWNED”
From the bottom of my heart… thank you.
<3.
.-= Ev`Yan | apricot tea.´s last blog ..chocolate/vanilla. =-.
wowzers!
i’m speechless..i loved ev’yan’s blog the moment i stumbled upon it…so much so, that i read it from the beginning…and she was about a year in at the time.
that her husband was white did cross my mind (insert kanye shrug here) and i did have the same questions…that person seemed angry and incredulous possibly because they’re angry at their own parents for making them “mulatto” which is an offensive word (learned that the hard way.)
even though we live in a post-obama racial utopia (insert smirk here), race will always be an issue because racism and prejudice still live on. just as sexism lives on as well.
i always go back to my old saying (when people used to call me fat as a kid)
if you don’t like it, close yo’ eyes…lol
.-= Felicia´s last blog ..Swagg Fashion =-.
look at you girl working that dress and vest, Naomi better watch her back! hahaha, all jokes aside, you look fabulous, I’m really loving your outfit posts
Much love always,
Glendy
.-= Glendy´s last blog ..Cute Post: Bunny Soap Dish! =-.
Sidenote: I love that you’re very open in your blog, it’s very hard to find and honest blogger who keeps it real and has a REAL opinion, keep it up!
Much love,
Glendy
.-= Glendy´s last blog ..Cute Post: Bunny Soap Dish! =-.
GIIIIIRL!
First off, what Felicia says hits the nail on the head: “If you don’t like it, close yo’ eyes.” I don’t care who those girls think they are or what their higher power made them out to be, they don’t get to go around beating down everyone else’s door preaching their brand of stupidity.
You are amazing (moreso in those Acne wedges) and I look forward to every day where I know there are girls out there like you who stand up for what they believe in.
.-= birdie´s last blog ..Rant: That We Shall Know No Suffering for Our Skin Tone =-.
WOMAN! You badass. I’m thankful there are women like you in the blogosphere-I am currently dealing with some haters and getting kind of sad about it but this post just reminded me that NO they do not have the right to get me down.
In other news? You look effing fabulous.
Such true words! And you look so rad here- loove how you put this outfit together with the vest. Love love love. xo, Mel
.-= Wrecked Stellar´s last blog ..You’re Invited to My Slumber Party! =-.
I love your segues, they’re one of the best parts of your blog!
Terrific picture and awesome outfit, but it’s even better that you’re bold enough to express your opinions.
Honestly, I was following the debate that followed the entry since it was posted, and I felt like both “sides” had some reasonable arguments. I honestly don’t see color when I look at someone either– I see just THEM. It is possible in this day and age for people to live without prejudice. I don’t even see myself as an ethnicity, though culturally I am a mixture. However, I do recognize that race is still an issue in some parts of America and definitely in the world– luckily, though, many people that responded were probably blessed not to have experienced that. (I don’t mean to bring any sort of debate here, I’m just sayin’, haha.)
I feel like some people involved really did take things too personally– on all sides of the “debate”. The last thing I want to do is start any drama, though, so I’m going to leave it at that. At the end of it all I simply wasn’t sure what anyone’s point was, or why anyone was attacking, or implying, or insinuating anything about anyone. The subject can certainly be an interesting topic to discuss but there’s no reason for people to get so worked up about it. /ramble
.-= sui´s last blog ..HELP HAITI NOW: photography print auction =-.
“My major is sociology…” Hahahaha! My major is ass kicking! What a moron.
p.s. I like those shoes, just DON’T FALL! xo
.-= Sister Wolf´s last blog ..The Petite Cuteness =-.
good one.
I don’t understand how Ev`Yan simple and concise post about her experience spiralled down like that in the comment’s section.
Love the maxi and your poses
.-= Als Simmons´s last blog ..Me Through my EYEs =-.
MEOWW Honey You are TOO fierce, head to toe inside and out!
The fact that Ev’Yan even had to address her relationship and the fact that it is interracial just pissed me right the fuck off. The line of questioning was just filled with rage, and I know that’s what got everyone pissed. Yeah, the issue isn’t dead, but shit…can Ev’Yan and Jonathan live? It’s not an issue to them, so it damn sure shouldn’t be an issue to anyone else. I won’t lie and sit here saying that I don’t see color (because I do, shit I’m human!), but it’s not a big damn deal. The sooner that people realize this, the better off we’ll be.
I’ve been in an interracial relationship for a long time, and I live in the damn SOUTH. Sure, we get looks and things, but do I seem like I give one hot fuck? I sure as hell don’t. I’m getting it how I live with who I love, and I won’t let my color or who I’m in a relationship with be the platform for someone’s bullshit. These people need to kick rocks.
I know that what I have to add is going to mirror so many of the previous responses however I feel compelled to share my two cents anyways… Ev’Yans blog was so simple, sweet & honest I simple saw her doing something cool and sharing a bit of her life with her followers. The interesting thing is that I honestly didn’t think about the race of Ev’Yan or her hubby… my first thougths were “wow he’s pretty darn fab”. And whats even more interesting is that I completely forgot about my own family and that my brother and & sis in law are an “interracial” couple… Not because I forgot about them or my sis but because I DONT’ THINK ABOUT IT! Their relationship has taught me to break the barriers we place on love, family and life and even more importantly we each make our own decisions as to whats best for us… period. This young women who commented on your blog and on Ev’Yan’s (are they one in the same?) simply ooze with self loathing, unhappiness and insecurity. They both would definitely fall in the vampire monkey cateogry
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Be Peace…
ps. Your style is DOPE…
Total pwnage. Lovin’ the denim vest. Finding something @ Hoodwill that is the perfect size/fit/color/everything is one of the best feelings in the entire universe. Just saw another denim vest on Monica Rose’s blog (http://monicarosestylist.blogspot.com/2010/01/spring-denim.html). I’m feelin’ your choice to wear bottoms with yours, though (vs. girl #3 in the undies).
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I’m not going to dwell too much about this whole issue that arose re: blog post because I can see that the whole situation is a train wreck but the way i see it:
your skin colour is caused by the pigmentation of certain proteins. just like your hair colour is pigmented by proteins and your eye colour is pigmented by proteins. So seriously, what’s the big deal? it’s just a little science, nothing more, nothing less
.-= Carina´s last blog ..Painting of the Week: Lovers =-.
dude…lmfao…i freakin love you.
hilarious that you put jazzy jazz’s email on blast.
kinda wanna do something mean and cruel with it, but…maybe.
clicked on ev’yan’s link and will comment on that further later on, but wanted to say indeed, pwned.
oh, i’ve a dress JUST like that, but it fits kinda f’ed up. trying to find something to put over it cuz it’s also got a v-neck, thereby throwing the whole thing off. suggestions?
.-= pennerad´s last blog ..1st day of school =-.
man alive. people are dumb. yeah, jasmine, i took it there.
this is the interweb, for christ sake! no one of it matters except to the people who read it, just like everyone gets to decide what matters to them.
btdubs, you look great maxin out. loving those acnes peeking out.
Thank you cutie pie for your compliment and also for your unknowning assistance in helping me choose my glasses. (Ev’Yan shared your pictures with me and said, “Alicia is gorgeous with glasses and you can be too.”) So, thanks for being you…gorgeous and giving this mama some confidence.
So…I’m snowed in here in VA, so I decided to venture around the blogosphere. i’m glad i stumbled onto this little treasure.
your pics are nice tho. at least your flair for unique fashion. i feel we woulda been cool friends in high school.
also…was I the only one who snickered at your “third leg” statement? probably.
once again, fun post. and EFF them suckas on the south side!
I’m still astounded that folks type “hoe” when they mean, “ho (slang derivative of whore).” are we not yet knowledgeable enough to know that hoes are gardening tools??? Okay, yeah, this is what I took from this… *shakes head* I find it admirable of you to voice your opinion and not biting your tongue when it comes to those you care about and what you care about. Stick with it, lady. *nods*
.-= trE´s last blog ..state of emergency + pics =-.
I follow Ev’Yan’s blog, its one of my favorites. I myself was curious when I saw she was married to a white guy, not in the same way Alexis was. My curiousity was more, “how and where did she find this guy, and where can I get one.” Me being black myself, I was pretty upset at the way some of the people were acting. I really feel that if they have such a problem with it then stop visiting the blog, or don’t leave comments. The animosity is not needed.
Anyways, Alicia you look adorable as usual!
xoxo
~Sophie.
Btw…I love the way you handled Jazzy. haha.
some people need to get a life.
also, love your outfit girly!
xx-LJ from SOS!
wow. as awful as people like that are that are so nasty and uncouth, i’m not terribly surprised; my blog is just a small pastry @ the blog bakery (it’s not very popular yet and was only started a little more than a year ago) but I still got a few terrible comments since I started it. One anonymous for example, called me repulsive to look at and terribly dressed and suggested I photograph only nature and such. The thing with haters though that I’ve noticed though, is that not only are they clearly insecure & shallow (their comments are nearly always at a material level ex: ‘wtf were you thinking with those shoes’ or whatever) they don’t know you. They don’t want to know. They just want to be jealous and project their self hate onto you/whoever they choose. I feel so honored and humbled to talk to you and read about you and other fabulous & talented bloggers. I really admire this post. Good For You! Also, I love the denim over leather look & am tempted to try for myself sometime this week.
xx
.-= charles´s last blog ..Still In The Red: Wednesday & Thursday’s Outfits =-.
I just stumbled upon your blog by way of Sister Wolf’s blog, and this is the best first post to ever read when stumbling around in blogland.
I think there is so much to be said about our culture and society, in that there are still these very volatile issues surfacing because of race, but all the while we walk around professing ourselves not to be racists. I find it sad, and indicative of how little we’ve progressed as a society, to see the anger and hate that fills people when they ‘discuss’ the sorts of issues that bring up questions of difference based on skin color. If these people are not going to educate themselves, think critically, assess the situation based on the cultural and social context it has, and THEN talk, than they shouldn’t talk at all. I am not sure where I am going with this, other than the fact that it makes me so sad to see someone attacked for what color their skin is, or for the color of skin that the person they love is, among other discriminations. We’re all made out of the same stuff, and we’re all going to die someday, why can’t we just all get along for the short time we’re here?
hmmm…I’m black. I have a white boyfriend. I’ve definitely f*cked a bunch of guys, though mostly white for no particular reason.
I used to feel the need to explain myself, prove that I didn’t have a preference. Now, I just don’t care. If someone wants to ask me a question about my business, then they will receive an answer about my business. Other than that, the topic is dead to me. I have far more important things to worry about such as 1) no health insurance 2) student loans 3) law school 4) my family 5) the economy 6) etc… that I just can’t waste time making someone else feel comfortable with my business.
and I’m on to the next one
.-= Die Konigin Der Herzen´s last blog ..I WANNA ROCK FASHION WEEK 2010 =-.
Wow! Can we all just love who we love and do life. I am so sorry to hear, no read that all of this went down.
Much love to ya, Lady.