Comments on: Confession 001: Another Shade of Green

By: Vanda

Vanda — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 03:47:31 +0000

I think you’ll find that’s true of pretty much everyone. I was the last of my friends to move abroad to study, and, honestly, while it broadened my horizons, etc, I also learned never to feel envious of those fabulous friends who moved from country to country at the drop of a hat to pursue this or that. Because, when one of them was ill in her miserable little accommodations hall room, I was the only one she had to bring her soup and food – none of her other recent acquaintances cared. And when you move so often, that’s pretty much what you get – crappy rooms and acquaintances.

That was just one example. Being successful and having an empire can suck because it owns you, makes you stressed, makes you paranoid (I’ll give you an example by DM if you’d like). While I think we should always strive to do better, be better, we should always remember we’re hardly alone with our green coloured glasses, and sometimes a chill pill is a good pill
.-= Vanda´s last blog ..We called him Fon =-.

By: dreamsequins

dreamsequins — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 12:23:36 +0000

Alicia– this gave me chills– I can relate to what you’re feeling. And despite my valedictorian accomplishments when I was younger, I feel like I’ve bee floating through the latter half of my life… just waiting for what I Don’t know what to begin… Listen, everyone has their own path and the grass is definitely greener on the other side. Right now I’m traveling through Thailand and I’m feeling oh so humbled by the simpler lives people lead out here. I’ve been feeling well… inferior living in the Big Apple and all… but travel gives me perspective. And I realize that there’s always someone looking at your life and thinking how charmed it all is… So yeah. This is all a long-winded way of saying that it’s all relative. xx D

By: Kristine

Kristine — Sun, 25 Oct 2009 19:42:32 +0000

So I wrote you a little comment through my phone, but I see now it didn’t go through – lame – I’ll rewrite it when I’m not too lazy to grab my phone where I saved it.

Also! Dude, best tumblr ever! Also unvrse.tumblr.com. Amazing.
.-= Kristine´s last blog ..1024 =-.

By: SOS!

SOS! — Sun, 25 Oct 2009 15:34:17 +0000

I do get where you’re coming from, and it’s very interesting that that sertain blogger deleted the post. Doesn’t everyboday have those green tinted glasses to some extent? It’s all relative I suppose. But whether it’s over something silly like “I wish I had enough money to get the boots this person is wearing.”, or “I wish I could just finish my degree and jet off to a new location and start all over again, like this person did”. I think one could take these thoughts and turn them into something positive, as a way of motivation to do what you really want to do (even if it’s not that easy to accomplish). It does set a small challenge. But don’t worry love, what you feel is very normal.
xx-LJ from SOS!
.-= SOS!´s last blog ..My burrffday.. =-.

By: The Style and Beauty Doctor

The Style and Beauty Doctor — Sun, 25 Oct 2009 01:41:20 +0000

I so get you!!! I felt the same way after I finished college—always feeling like everyone was doing so much better than me. I also did well in school and took accelerated classes just knowing I’d have some super fancy high-paying job. Then got super depressed when it didn’t happen. I think we all go through how you’re feeling in this post in our 20s and it does happen to get better, but we first have to learn how to not be so consumed in what others are doing (because more than likely they’re lives aren’t as glamorous as they appear or they secretly envy YOU).
.-= The Style and Beauty Doctor´s last blog ..The Week in Beauty and Style =-.

By: Ashley

Ashley — Sun, 25 Oct 2009 01:07:19 +0000

I see so much of myself in this post too! Jealousy gets the best of me when I look at people who are my age or younger and are living in the city, have careers, even have families of their own. I just feel so unaccomplished. It's comforting, but also sad, to know that there are others that feel the same way. .-= Ashley´s last blog ..My first blog-iversary!! =-.

By: Tamia

Tamia — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 22:39:02 +0000

“It’s hard not to feel like I’ve fallen short.”
This and everything that follows has been weighing heavy on my heart and mind for at least a year. It’s difficult when you come out of the gate so strong (reading early, in gifted programs, etc.) and feel like you’re losing momentum. Where did I go wrong? Where did I get stuck?

I don’t profess to have any answers, but I wonder if it’s okay for us to give ourselves permission NOT to live up to everyone’s arbitrary expectations, even our own. If it helps, I will say that your intelligence and thoughtfulness come through in everything I’ve ever seen you do, including this blog post

BTW, I tend to put Robin Thicke’s “To the Sky” on repeat when I’m feeling this way…

~Tamia
TheStyleSample.com
.-= Tamia´s last blog ..Dig if you will these pictures =-.

By: michelle

michelle — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 16:37:33 +0000

hello again alicia!!
just wanted to let you know that i have given you to awards on my blog!!!
http://cookiesandcremevintage.blogspot.com/2009/10/so-honored.html
.-= michelle´s last blog ..so honored… =-.

By: WendyB

WendyB — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 02:02:50 +0000

If it's any consolation, I think it's human nature to feel that way. I'd wager that anyone who says they've never envied someone for SOMETHING is lying. .-= WendyB´s last blog ..Reminder: Sample Sale Friday and Saturday =-.

By: pennerad

pennerad — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 22:04:20 +0000

seems we are in the same place. i’ve been agonizing this same issue for months (okay years) now. today i simply went to see the doctor and it was like having someone kick start my motivation. i’m not sure if i’m going to do all the things i had initially set out to do, but it was almost like my entire life hand gone on pause because of a hiccup in my 5 and 10 and 15 year plans. *i DON’T like change*. i graduated early, later than i had anticipated because my parents refused to let me go to college at that age, but at 20, i had a job offer, money in the bank, was looking to buy an apartment.
things took a southbound turn, but i am now trying to regain that vision i had as a child, the overwhelming NEED to GET UP/DO/MOVE/LIFE/FEEL. and i remember being so ecstatically happy when i realized that other people too had green glasses. misery always loves company, i suppose. my major concern now is doing something simply to cure my own insecurity and have people look up to me and say ‘wow’. i’d rather be happy, satisfied, content in my career path vs. apathetic and wealthy. none of my friends have these motivations and concerns, it seems, so having someone(s) that i can look to and see a kindred spirit (something i’ve never had) is the most awesome form of comfort ever. thanks for sharing, as always.
confession 2: i think i have a love/hate relationship with beyonce for this VERY f’ing reason…shhh. don’t tell my boyfriend.
.-= pennerad´s last blog ..a boot for every occasion =-.