Dead Fleurette / Linda V. Wright’s daughter, India
Clothes are stressful, but so nice to look at. The top image is one that has stuck in my mind since 2010. I miss DF so much. The bottom is an example of perfect styling. Neither have anything to do with this post.
I’m taking a break from shopping for the rest of the year. I’m doing it because I need to calibrate my priorities, I need to save money, and because I don’t think I can actually do it. It’s a very layered approach.
So nice I did it twice / CITIZENS OF HUMANITY Liya jeans in Rock On (tailored) and Fade Out (awaiting tailoring).
Looking at what I’ve bought over the last seven months, I am pleased. I made some mistakes and forgot certain things don’t ‘work’ on me, but I have everything that I need and then some. And that’s why I need to chill. With the exceptions of replacing t-shirts when they wear out and a pair of rain boots, I am no longer seeking out the new. For five months. I have a closet full of my grails already and I need to appreciate them.
Since January, I’ve bought (read: both purchased and, for the time being, have kept) the following. Items in red will be sold…for reasons.
Rodebjer camel coat
AA hoodie and shorts set, AA white cropped fisherman sweater
Chloe Sevigny x Opening Ceremony Maryellen boots
AA dark indigo denim skirt, AA navy blue wrap skirt
AA black ponte tank dress
Gucci Brixton loafers
Stutterheim Stockholm long raincoat
CoH Liya jeans
Elizabeth Suzann raw silk Maxine top
AA black bodysuit
Rick Owens Lillies dress
blue suede Jordan 1s
vintage Levis 501 cutoffs
CoH Liya jeans
vintage lounge shorts
Isabel Marant striped Zita sweater (same style as Fleurette’s above)
Like a lot of people who spend too much time on the Internet and care about superficial things more than they should, I read Into The Gloss. More than anything else, I love playing voyeur and learning about people’s routines and cabinets.
I’ve always thought it would be fun to do an ITG Top Shelf interview. Thing is, it wouldn’t be nearly as complex or expensive sounding as most on that site. Actually, it isn’t complex or super expensive at all.
I’ve been through several regimens but pared back to the following after reading this ITG article. In time, I finally admitted that most every cleanser dried out my skin (black soap included), most moisturizers I was using were way too heavy, and my skin type favors lighter weight oils (i.e. not high oleic acid). It took a little bit of research and patience, but my skin is looking a LOT healthier, clearer, and smoother now than it ever has…which is a big deal because hyperpigmentation and breakouts ruled my world for nearly two decades. Old heads here know what my cheeks and upper arms used to look like.
My overall approach is that I stick to products that can be used in more than one application. I have a lot less clutter in the bathroom as a result.
// FACE & BODY
I wash my face with plain water. Shouts out to Ariana for making this seem like a real thing because I doubt I’ll ever use a proper cleanser again. In the mornings, I usually just run a few handfuls over my face in the shower. At night, I scrub with a wet crocheted bamboo face flannel. I don’t wear a lot of makeup, so this works well. On the rare occasion that I do wear makeup, I use grapeseed oil to dissolve it first. After washing, I use a spray toner from Lagom Body Co (or a mix of ACV and water once it runs out) and follow up with Mad Hippie’s Vitamin C serum and Rose oil from Chicken Coop Botanicals. If I have dark marks, I swipe a drugstore cocoa butter stick across them. This all takes about two minutes. I use SPF sporadically..when I remember, it’s Bare Republic SPF 30.
I’ll use a mask every now and again – usually a mix of kaolin clay, bentonite clay and whatever else I have on hand. Honey and turmeric masks are amazing. I also use this Pacifica enzyme mask I got because it was on sale at the grocery store. I really like it. It’s one of those things I can do in the morning as I’m getting ready and it makes me look really radiant and fresh, like I got night of sleep. If I need to deeply exfoliate, I use either the Belle Butters Avo-Coco facial polish, Bee Lux Chaotic scrub, or a facial brush.
Body care is even less involved. I use Dr. Bronner’s castille soap and a Salux washcloth. It’s a little rough but I can’t stop using it now that I’m used to the feeling. If I feel like I need to be luxurious, I scrub with a mix of dark brown sugar and coconut oil. I also use Nene Organics Vagina Therapy for my lady bits. It’s amazing stuff and worth the additional expense.
Once I’m out of the shower, I moisturize all over with grapeseed oil. If I’m going to be in the sun, I use Belle Butters Tanning Butter on the exposed areas. I brown instead of burn when I use this, so I’m counting it a win.
I don’t use much makeup because I’ve subscribed to the French-attributed notion that skincare trumps makeup. Also, I’m lazy and like to sleep in. I use three products daily, and they’re all Glossier: Boy Brow in black, Balm dotcom, and Cloud Paint in Beam. If I’m feeling fancy, I’ll use their Haloscope in rose quartz or moonstone for a bit of highlight. Sometimes I’ll wear mascara. My favorite is Neutrogena Healthy Lengths mascara because it doesn’t dry out completely and isn’t a nightmare to wash off. If I’m going for something more dramatic, I’ll use NYX’s Doll Eyes.
If I feel like I need to do real makeup, I use a mix of Glossier Skin Tint in Dark or Deep, some sort of eye makeup (I have a dual liquid liner and kohl liner for options), and finish with either MAC clear Lipglass or a matte red lip – Bawse Lady from The Lip Bar or every brown girl’s favorite, Ruby Woo. I recently started using MAC’s Touch for daytime. It’s a really great nude shade.
I co-wash it when I remember and try to wet and/or moisturize it daily. Right now, I use Oyin Hair Dew. One of the benefits of having short hair is that this section is just as short.
I use an oil blend from The Wylde Life. I love it because it reminds me of the African Marketplace I used to go to in summertime as a kid. It’s called Dick Too Bomb; It makes me laugh any time I tell someone what it is, and they do ask because it smells amazing. I’m also having a love fest with samples of Commodity’s Gold scent and Skin by Clean Reserve. They’re both warm and light and beautiful and exactly how I want to smell, but I’m a commitment-phobe, so I’ve yet to buy a full bottle of anything. Soon. Very soon.
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top made by me / CITIZENS OF HUMANITY jeans / COMMON PROJECTS sandals / THE ROW sunglasses
It’s hot outside and I am thrilled. Time to revisit the list for spring/summer closet preparations that I put together and completely forgot about…
// Dye my light colored high-waist jeans to a medium blue…maybe
I did no do this…mostly because I fell out of love with skinny jeans. It’s too hot and my legs are bigger than they were a few months ago. Shouts out to squats and prowler runs.
// Get supplies to properly clean and waterproof my shoes
Still haven’t done this either. Terrible.
// Reassess the closet contents
This is a constant thing. Lots of things sold and given away and I’m feeling good about the current state of things. I still haven’t worn the loafers.
// Mend/tailor anything that needs mending/tailoring
Yes and no. All the major items are taken care of, but there are some necklaces that I need professional help with.
// Buy a couple of nice, long-wearing spring/summer tops
I finally bought the Elizabeth Suzann Maxine top I mentioned earlier and am impatiently awaiting its arrival. In the meantime, I made the shirt I’m wearing above with a $2.25 fabric remnant (directions are here if you are so inclined!). Summer shirt issues (possibly) resolved!
Side note: if any of you are pressed for a particular ES piece and aren’t too keen about the current 8-10 week lead time, I’d suggest checking out this Instagram page. You might get lucky (I DID!)
// Find a pair of good jeans
YES. FOUND. WEARING IN PHOTO ABOVE. And I can’t get enough of them. I had the waist taken in (best $15 I’ve spent in a while) and they’re perfect. I want them in a darker wash, too.
If any of you are interested in this style, size down. I’m usually a 28 and had to get a 26 in these…thicker thighs and all. Still not sure how that happened, but I’m rolling with it.
THE ROW sunnies /THEYSKEN’S THEORY tank / CITIZENS OF HUMANITY jeans / Chucks
Greetings from Page, Arizona. I’m here on a work trip to send a chicken sandwich to space. True story.
The last two years have been fraught with a lot of personal growth (read: really shitty things happening). The good thing is I think I’ve finally landed in a place where I can manage myself and my emotions without wanting to jump out of a window or hole up for several days. It’s a nice time. It’s definitely a journey, but I’m learning to better appreciate the stops along the way.